My family has been coming here since long before I was born. It’s private and quiet, and at night you can see more stars than you’ve ever seen in your life outside of a telescope.
For various reasons, when we go we don’t bring the kids to stay with us the whole weekend. Instead, we leave them with my parents who bring them up for the day on Saturday. We get to sleep a little later, play with our children during the day, and send them home. It’s almost like we’re….um…let me think….grandparents!
This weekend, Jim took full advantage of the situation by telling 6yo she could have a treat whenever she asked.
“Sure, have another cookie!”
About 20 minutes before they all went home for the night, she was hopped up on M & Ms and cookies and was running in circles for the heck of it. As they were getting ready to leave, my mother commented, “Boy, she’s really sugared up!”
Heh, heh, heh.
Barbie Dolls. I had them. Lots of them.
I also had the Barbie car, the Barbie patio set, The Barbie piano, the Barbie horse…..
My father built me a beautiful doll house for my Barbies, which my mother painted, wall-papered, and furnished. It was lovely and I spent hours playing with them. (I don’t actually want my daughter to play with Barbies, but I’ll cover that in another post.)
There were three things that I loved to do with my Barbies:
Stage them in various scenes from my favorite Broadway musicals. This was difficult because I only had two Ken Dolls. Sometimes G.I. Joe had to stand in as Curly in Oklahoma. When re-enacting Into the Woods, Brunette Ken played the Baker, Cinderella’s Prince, and the Wolf, while Blonde Ken covered the parts of Jack, Rapunzel’s Prince, and the Narrator. I think, for Les Miserables, I may have also had to “borrow” some Transformers from my brother for a rousing Mattel rendition of “One Day More.”
Murder them. Ok, so maybe playing happy housewife did not appeal to me. Having Barbie stand in the kitchen or take a nap in the upstairs bedroom of her dream house was boring. Instead, one of my Barbies would pretend to befriend my favorite Barbie (a redhead whose name was actually Midge) then betray her in some way. Perhaps she would steal Midge’s jewels or kiss Brunette Ken when Midge wasn’t watching. Midge would respond by first beating the crap out of Barbie, then finishing her off by stabbing her, running her over with her car, or shoving her off a cliff (i.e. my bed). Sometimes I even smeared them with lipstick so they’d look all bloody. Midge killed so many blonde Barbies that I’m sure she qualified as a serial killer. I blame this on my father, who didn’t see it necessary to censor any of his television watching that he did in our playroom (because that’s where the recliner was).
Launch Them. My brother and I are not particularly close, but if there’s any memory we can bond over it’s this one. After knocking off too many Blond Barbies, Midge got her comeuppance when, one fateful day, my dog chewed off her foot. She was no longer attractive to me as the femme fatale, so instead my brother and I took some yarn from our mother’s craft drawer, tied it around her neck, swung her in a big circle off our second-story deck and let her fly. Because he was younger, it was his job to retrieve her from whatever field she landed in. We learned that she would fly farther when she was naked and that, if you whipped the yarn too violently, her head would pop off and it would take you several minutes to figure out where it landed.
If I ever decide to see a therapist, perhaps I should mention my Barbie playing habits. It may reveal a lot about me. On second thought….
My parents never took our family camping because my Mom considered camping to be the opposite of a vacation. After all, you have to pack lots of the things you’d use at home (kitchen supplies, toiletries, linens, clothing, etc.), drive them to the campsite, unpack them, use them, pack them back up to leave, take them home, unpack them, wash them, and re-pack them again for their regular use. Why go through all that when you can just stay home and not have to pack or unpack anything? Not to mention, there’s the cooking while not in a kitchen and the sleeping while not in a bedroom. Millions of people camp all over the country every year, but we were never among them. As a result, I’ve tended to side with my mother when it comes to opinions on camping.
Jim, on the other hand, has always had romantic notions of camping. His parents didn’t take him camping either, but he attended many years of church camp where he slept in lean-tos and cooked over an open fire. He counts those experiences as some of his favorites. So, it’s no surprise that he’s been eager to take our family camping. I finally agreed to give it a try last summer when we found out that some out-of-town relatives were planning to tent camp at a nearby campground for a few days. I figured we could join them and try it out. If we didn’t like it we’d only be a few miles from home.
As it turns out, the week we selected was the hottest week of 2012 – 100 humid degrees each day. We were tent camping and we didn’t even have a fan. In addition, we were camping during the week, so Jim had to leave each morning to go to work, leaving me with a 5-year-old and a 7-month-old in the sweltering heat all day. The first night, a thunderstorm so intense that it washed out some local roads rained down upon our little campsite. Between the rain, the heat, and the loud neighbors I barely got any sleep. It was not the charming camping experience I had been sold, and I made my own promise not to tent camp again. A month later, when the opportunity arose, we purchased a cheap, used pop-up camper.
This weekend, we camped again at the same campground and it was a completely different experience. Despite the unseasonably cold temperatures (low 40s at night), we were cozy and snug in our quiet, heated camper. All four of us slept soundly in our separate beds that were not on the ground. We had a refrigerator to keep our food cold and a stove and griddle (for Jim) to cook on. It was wonderful.
There’s a term for my kind of camping: “glamping” or glamorous camping. We still get to enjoy all the fun of campfires, hiking, and fishing – not to mention the community aspect one finds at a campground – but we don’t have to sleep on the ground or watch our tent get blown over by the wind. Besides, it’s not like we’re alone, you know. Three quarters of the campers in our campground this weekend were in campers larger and cozier than ours.
So, now I’m definitely up for all the “glamping” Jim can throw at me.
(I’m also up for ignoring the mountains of campfire-smelling laundry in my basement).
Happy Mother’s Day to anyone and everyone who has ever mothered someone -sons, daughters, nieces, grandchildren, neighbors, cats, dogs, fish, or fowl.
A conversation with 6yo in the parking lot of the restaurant we went to for Mother’s Day dinner:
6yo: Mommy! Your shadow looks like a minion!
Me: A Minion? Cool!
6yo: Wait, I really meant a midget.
Me: It’s not really polite to call people midgets, lets stick with minion – I like that.
Something I learned about 1-year-olds today:
When they want their older sister’s ice cream, you can trick them with a plate of whipped cream.
When I was in 8th grade, the Esprit brand was all the rage, as was Benetton. The uniform of all who cared about conforming was a sweatshirt with “Esprit” emblazoned across the front, high-top sneakers, and an awkward-to-carry, wind-sock-shaped Benetton bag.
I would be proud to say that I, at the age of 14, was above all of this commercialism but that would be a lie. I wanted to fit in, too. Unfortunately (although in hind-sight I feel differently), my mother refused to pay for anything simply because it had a brand name screen-printed across the front.
So, I saved up my babysitting money and finally procured one knock-off Esprit sweatshirt at an outlet and a Benetton bag that may also have been of questionable origins. The first day I wore them to school, the number of “I love your sweatshirt!” comments I received was overwhelming and also eye-opening for me. Thanks to my parents, I knew deep down that I was selling out. Without the brand name, I was wearing a sloppy, faded blue sweatshirt. The only thing that separated me from the girl in class wearing the plain, blue, no-brand sweatshirt (who was often referred to as “scum” in our early 90’s prep lexicon) was six little red letters.
Anyone who is surprised by Abercrombie & Fitch CEO Mike Jeffries’s recent comments about only marketing to attractive, “cool” people either grew up apart from this kind of marketing or is simply extremely naïve. It is also naïve to think that the CEOs of other companies that depend on teenage pressure to conform to brand-name purchasing (Aeropostale, Under Armour, Hollister, American Eagle) don’t have the exact same mind-set as Jeffries.
The success of these companies says more about us and our children than it does about those companies. Daily, I see 12 to 14-year-olds march through middle school hallways proudly wearing a shirt that says they belong, merely because of the brand-name emblazoned on the front. The desire to fit in (and for our children to fit in) is strong enough to convince people to purchase clothing, despite the fact that it looks old and worn-out and sometimes even dirty, simply because of the brand. What company wouldn’t want to perpetuate this mind-set when there’s so much money to be made?
I think Mike Jeffries is a total ass, but I don’t blame him and companies like his for this social condition. These companies exist because of us. They exist because we foster an idea in our children that you are what you own – that paying a lot for a ratty hoodie makes you more valuable than the kid whose parents bought his sweatshirt at Walmart. Shame on Mike Jeffries, but shame on us as well.
Fortunately, I was saved by my parents values and the grunge movement of the mid-90s. Thanks to Kurt Cobain and Eddie Vedder, we could happily shop at thrift stores and borrow our boyfriend’s flannel shirts and still be accepted. Granted, we were following a trend, but one more focused on who we wanted to be and less on what we wanted to buy.
To this day, even though I do fit into the clothing in those name-brand stores, I will not buy them. I will not buy them because of what it says about me and who I want to be (and because anyone my age trying to rock an Aeropostale tiny-tee is just trying too hard).
In the interest of full disclosure: In college, I did work in the Gap for a while. I did own one Gap sweatshirt that I bought off the clearance rack for $5 and subsequently got grease on it shortly afterward. I hung onto it for another decade to wear around the house. It was one of my favorite comfy sweatshirts.
When I was little, my aunt had a car that spoke. Remember those? If your car door was open, the car would say (in its 80’s robot voice) “Your door is ajar.” I think it also said other things, but I don’t remember them. I spent most of the time opening and closing the door while it was parked, so “your door is ajar” is what I remember best. It was as though I was in my own personal episode of Knight Rider – except that I didn’t drive anywhere and the voice didn’t sound like Mr. Feeny from Boy Meets World or John Adams from 1776.
Considering we had talking cars in the 80s, you would think all cars today would be equipped with Siri-type personal assistants who could also help you solve crime. Instead, my car just nags at me with an annoying beep every time I leave something heavy on the passenger seat.
Today, I had to transport some heavy equipment from my first job to my second job. I stacked it all on a cart and wheeled it out to my car. When I opened the back hatch, I found that Jim had left his bowling balls in the back. By bowling “balls” I mean an entire suitcase of bowling balls that Jim needs to take with him every Monday night because one ball just isn’t enough. I couldn’t fit the equipment in the back without moving the balls, but the only place I could put them was on the floor in front of the passenger seat.
This wasn’t a problem until I got in my car at the end of the day. Apparently, the 50 lbs. of balls, shoes, and rosin were enough to set off the passenger seat sensor that tattles on anyone who sits in the seat without buckling. It started off as a slow “beep…….beep……..beep.” The longer I drove, the quicker and louder it got until it was all, “BEEP…BEEP..BEEP BEEPBEEPBEEEP..BEEEEEEEEEEEEEP!!!!!!”
Really, Toyota? This is the automotive equivalent of “Mom! He’s touching me! Stop touching meeeee!!!! Mooooooommmmmyyyy!!!!”
It’s 2013. By now, my car should be brewing my coffee and cutting my hair. At the very least, cars should politely clear their throats in an “ahem” fashion instead of rudely beeping at people who are perfectly capable of choosing whether or not they wear their seatbelts.
Get on that, car designers.
I have no idea what happened. Saturday morning (as I was lounging on the couch playing Candy Crush level 79 for the 14-millionth time) 6yo came over and told me, “Mommy, your eye is really red.” Figuring I had rubbed it when I woke up about 30 minutes earlier, I wasn’t concerned.
Later, when Jim came home for work, he immediately asked me, “Did you throw up last night?!”
“Why?” I asked.
“Because your eye is all bloody!”
Since then, the blood has been floating through the whites of my eye on a journey to wherever it is that blood goes when it bursts forth from its vessels. In the meantime, I have been experiencing reactions ranging from disgust to concern.
All day on Monday my students were all, “Oh my god! Like, what happened to your eye? It’s so gross!”
Middle -schoolers are too savvy to believe you when you tell them your husband poked you in the eyeball with a fork. However, they were also skeptical when I said I didn’t have any idea how it happened. It was as though they figured I was doing something unseemly over the weekend and didn’t want to tell them. While that would make the whole thing a lot cooler, I don’t even have a good story to share with my grown-up friends.
Since I take everyone in my family to the doctor except myself, I turned to the internet for a diagnosis. As it turns out, I have a subconjuncitval hemorrhage. I think. Apparently, if there is no pain or oozing (of which there is none, I swear) it should go away in a week or so.
If I’m wrong, expect a post in a week or two about how I went blind because I depend on the internet to diagnose giant bloody hemorrhages in my eyeball.
P.S.- Why on earth is Hemorrhage spelled with only one m, but it needs two rs and an extra h? The h I can handle, but the extra r seems excessive.
In our local paper, there is a section devoted to anonymous people calling in or emailing and complaining about whatever has their pants in a twist that day. This morning, I read the following entry from a local woman:
I’m totally disgusted by people who when they grocery shop, feel the need to open bottles and jars of food products, sniff the contents, close it back up and put it back on the shelf for some poor innocent to buy. I recently opened what should have been a new jar of peanut butter, only to find that the inside seal had been opened and the peanut butter was turning green. These people must have been raised in a barn, to not know that by opening these containers you are allowing contaminants to enter, thus allowing anyone who might eat them to become very sick or even die. I once saw a woman in a local supermarket going through each different brand of spaghetti sauce, opening, sniffing and placing it back on the shelf. This is stealing, you are ruining the product and not paying for it. This is one reason food prices continue to increase. This is a form of shoplifting and anyone who sees someone doing this should report them to the store manager. If not to catch the person, to at least remove the product from the shelves so that someone doesn’t end up sick.
Do people really do this?!?!?!?!??!! That’s craaaazzzyy!
I have seen people eating things in grocery stores, then not paying for them. I have found items in the wrong place, left there by someone too lazy to just hand it to the cashier. But I’ve never come across someone smelling the food, then closing it back up.
Also, In defense of people who grew up in barns, I think they would be the most likely to consider the rate of decay of perishable items, since most barns do not contain refrigerators.
I wanted to blog about something funny tonight, but I just can’t. My heart isn’t in it.
So, instead, I would like to offer my support, thoughts and prayers to those injured in today’s explosions in Boston.
One of the casualties was an 8-year-old boy. Several of the wounded were runners who had just finished their race only to have their legs injured to the point of needing amputation hours later.
Sometimes life just doesn’t make sense. Sometimes, you just can’t think about the awful parts of living or you’ll break.
Prayers for everyone who has broken today.